How to set custom vibrations on your iPhone
Want to know who's calling you without taking your phone out of your pocket? That's easy - assign a ringtone to a contact. But what about doing it all silently? Not only can you assign a custom ringtone or text tone to a contact, you can even give them a custom vibration pattern.
Open Phone or Contacts; select a contact, then tap the Edit button in the top-right corner. Scroll down to find the ringtone field; below it is a vibration field. Tap that, and you'll see an assortment of built-in vibration patterns you can choose from. Further down, though, is the ability to add a custom pattern: tap Create New Vibration, and you can tap on the screen to create your own rhythm. When you're satisfied (tap the Play button to see what it will feel like), tap Save to set the pattern.
If that's not enough, go back to the contact and also assign a custom vibration pattern for text messages.